Another difficult teaching.
I find this strangely comforting.
I’ve had to give up many of my beauties to this illness. Hair and tooth falling out. No balance, so that I cannot walk. Sporadic incontinence.
This has been difficult for me.
But my womanly attitude toward my husband I have TOTAL control over. It CANNOT be taken away from me.
I can be my husband’s staunchest and most loyal supporter.
I can call to mind the things I love about him.
I can be positive about our lives together.
This is how I make myself beautiful to him: I maintain my adoration of him. I tell others how great he is. I Let my respect show in my gaze. I remind him of his good qualities.
I often have felt sappy about this, especially when I first began, but I do it anyway.
This takes constant discipline. I do not allow myself to dwell on his negative qualities. (Except with one friend, occasionally. But I know she will not encourage me to give way to my fears)
There is a place in my man’s heart where he was hurt by his mother’s cynical patronizing disparaging attitude toward his dad, by his dad’s disrespect for himself. I have access to that place, for good or ill. I am determined, God helping me, to use my power for good.
I must not underestimate that power.
I often feel discouraged because I cannot do a lot nowadays. I must remember and cherish this power for good that God has given me.
- “In the same way you wives must submit to your husbands, so that if any of them do not believe God’s word, ….
- It will not be necessary for you to say a word….
- You should not use outward aids to make yourselves beautiful, such as the way you do your hair, or the jewellery you put on, or the dresses you wear. Instead, your beauty should consist of your true inner self, the ageless beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of the greatest value in God’s sight.
- For the devout women of the past who placed their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful by submitting to their husbands. Sarah was like that; she obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are now her daughters if you do good and are not afraid of anything”