Rough Season– don’t you think?

 I’m surprised we’re still here, aren’t you?

I have now listened to the Ps 121, Ps 37, Ps 18 and\or Rick Warren, Joyce Meyer, Beth Moore, RT Kendall, Steven Furtick and a bunch of other sermons and scripture.

Roughly 32 billion times.

i love 💕 it

Conclusion…we are going to make it guys. 

strengthandcourage.That is what I am talking about.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. That’s in 2 Corinthians.


God is not going to overestimate my stress capacity.  He’s got the specs…….

For my soul.

The Bible says “He formed my inward parts in the secret places”  ps 139.  That has got to include capacity indications.

Like I know how many corn dogs my kids will eat when I’m cooking. Like I know how much ⛽ to put in my car when I’m filling it.

I have to start by giving it to Jesus

asking for His help just to breathe.

trust God.

He’s got the specs:

Toxic family

I love that Jesus teaches me how to think about well-meaning but toxic folks.

He modeled it.

And the people became offended and began to turn against him. Jesus said, “There’s only one place a prophet isn’t honored—his own hometown!”
Matthew 13:57 TPT

And if anyone doesn’t listen to you and rejects your message, when you leave that house or town, shake the dust off your feet as a prophetic act that you will not take their defilement with you.
Matthew 10:14 TPT


I was thinking

How often do I parent out of fear?

They will work it out.

Just listen.

How often do I think about my rebuttal instead of understanding where my hubby or teenager is at?

I will get my chance.

Just listen for a pair of minutes.

Give the gift of quiet.

Be a safe place.



What if they can’t \won’t receive my ammends?


Is what swearing is for.

Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Step 9: Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

When we have REALLY screwed the pooch…

  • Like neglect
  • or abuse
  • or mental illness
  • or addiction
  • That kind of brown stuff

…The folks who got in my blind spot may not be ready

to even THINK about what i did,

much less offer me forgiveness.



Are There Times When Direct Amends Are Not Advisable?

Yes. Step Nine states that we make amends “except when to do so would injure them or others.” We don’t want our actions to cause further damage, harm or stress. Also, we might owe amends to people we can’t reach. In those cases, we can make amends in a broader sense by taking actions such as donating money, volunteering our time or providing care.


It’s also important to take great care when making amends to someone who is in active addiction because our primary responsibility is to safeguard our own health and recovery from substance abuse.

Should I Try to Make Amends with Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Hear From Me?

No matter how much you feel the need to make things right, forcing another to meet with your or hear from you is not part of the Steps. When those we’ve hurt are not able or willing to accept our amends, we can still move in a positive general direction by taking intentional steps to be of service to others.**



There be things that I must not talk to you about yet, dear person X.

Just know that when you are ready, I would be overjoyed to offer you my amends.


Until then, when I have those aha moments and suddenly see 👀 ANOTHER time that I was wrong…

I’ll take it to God in prayer or to my blog if it seems like it might help or take some action to volunteer my time and energy that seems appropriate, like in a 12 step group or community service.

my apologies can make you uncomfortable, like the last time we spoke. I’ll stay in the present unless you ask.

Its part of being gentle with your feelings.
Part of my amends.

You cannot absolve me. You don’t need that burden.

I must not look for ABSOLUTION of what I was from you, but REDEMPTION of what I am from God.

And I do expect redemption. Absolutely expect that.

From Jesus.


the happy wife —stay in the zone

Proactive. Ok living with said flaw in my man. How do I do it?

  • Mental discipline.
  • Remind mySELF of the truth
  • What this marriage means to me. What did I promise. Love Is a friggin’ choice.
  • Valuable things require sacrifice
  • What are the good things about him?  Is he a good provider? Is he funny?  Is he a good lover? Is he sweet to our girls? Is he a good cook? Does he balance the check book to the penny?

I try to keep short accounts. You know?  I don’t let little stuff build up. I take care of those little irritations before I get mad. Make sure to thank him and say he’s made a difference and I feel better just by talking.

Pray. I dont pretty things up for God.  He already knows, right?  look at.psalms: God wants truth in my inward parts.

Exercise.  Go for a walk.  Endorphines! And gripe to God while you are at it. It helps.

Take a break.  Sit down. Turn the stove off.  (Dinner can be late.  No one ever went to hell for that. Bitter words on the other hand…)

Don’t let blood sugar get too low. Grab a celery stick or some peanut butter.

 shut up and pray.  (Stormie Omartian power of a praying wife. Oh. My. Socks.  Buy it.  Highlight it. wear it out.)

Seriously girls, I still have to rezone myself and realize I have gotten bossy and reboot and add balance and remind myself about his great qualities…..all the time!

Bi weekly conflict dates tuesdays  Bi weekly fun dates thursdays.  Cheaper than a divorce. Thin smile.

Sandwich it.

Good thing.

Bad thing.

Good thing.


(it only works if Tuesday is the only time I strive to criticize.  Then I pray.)


I work to accept my man the way I want him to accept me:





  • The flirtatious friendship
  • The favoritism
  • The overwork
  • Not living out our priorities

Those  are the things I go to the mattresses  over.

But I rob my words of punch if I am often fussing at my man.  

I try to make my words count.  And I make sure I’m fighting for the relationship.  And not just to get my way

My way is nice and all–who doesn’t like their way?– but is it nicer than a peaceful, content lifestyle and harmony and well-being and happy kids and lovely sex?

I gotta be strategic.

And then I pray my guts out.  Did I mention that?

Spontaneous combustion🌻


I love Jesus so much you guys!

He is the most incredible person I’ve ever come in contact with and I want to be in His frickin POCKET. 💕

(what would i do if He was a jerk? Ummmm…. He’s God)

I love the Father I need a Dad right now. Telling me I’m gonna make it.

I love the Holy Spirit even though He freaks me out sometimes

I had to get that out.