Cooperation with what Jesus has already done makes verses like Ephesians 4:32 possible.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,

as God in Christ forgave you.”

Forgiving one another just as Christ forgave you.

God knew we couldn’t do it on our own.

So, He made a way not dependent on our strength.   -Lisa Tyrkherst

Aha!  Moment.

He KNOWS I can’t do this.  That’s one reason Jesus came!
Oh whew!

Sooooo relieved. 🌻
Ok here I go.

Jesus You’ve got to do this for me.

I’m counting on You.

(Sorry for being bossy: I’m rather desperate!)

Please Jesus.  Save me.  Save my children.  Save my marriage.

I need You. 🌻

First thanksgiving after ______

So it’s going 👌 okay!

I think that– as with many scary things– the anticipation is much worse than the actuality.


__________ Is not here and the future looks uncertain…

However, I do still have

  • ☔ Washed pavement
  • Mrs Pollifax novels. Current fave: Mrs. Pollifax  on the China Station Read by Barbara Rosenblat very important
  • Dogs happy grins with their tongues hanging out 
  • Fuzzy blanket
  • Turkey dinners with 
  • mashed potatoes 
  • cranberry sauce
  •  green beans
  •  rolls
  •  stuffing
  •  sweet potatoes 
  • and two kinds of pie
  • Discreet Underwear by Always – THANK YOU JESUS (just keepin it real, folks)
  • Honeysuckle
  • Old jokes
  • Aretha Franklin music
  • House Guest with Sinbad top ten movie for me
  • Sun comes out
  • Spring comes again
  • Presidential terms are only four years
  • My church egroup @ Elevation.com
  • Good counselors
  • Calico and plaid

Just reminding myself.

Other people have gotten over their kids wigging. Other people have gotten over their kids dying or killing themselves. I can do this too.



Let God do His healing work.

We’re gonna be ok. 🌻

Self-soothe: an important skill

The prodigal welcome.

This feels too good to be true for me.

I learned to expect painful treatment, as a kid,

if I ever FINALLY penetrated through

my parents’ constant miasma

of negative self talk

about stuff that I needed.

Like a hug or a sweater or a quiet space or kind words.

Not that Mom and Dad meant to hurt me: they didn’t. I’m sure of it.
But you can’t give something that you haven’t GOT, right?

Emotional resources

I was thinking with God about this issue of

what treatment I think I deserve this morning.

I want to reboot my ❤️ with Jesus today about this.

I DO deserve special treatment.

Jesus models it when it says He rose early as was his habit and went to pray alone with His Father,

or when He is obviously saying scripture over to Himself during His death by torture, because look what comes

out of His mouth.

The Father says so. No matter how I _______ in the past.

I deserve the following:
Cozy 🔥 places
Warm sweaters
Hot drinks that taste good
My dog at my feet
My cat in my lap
Fuzzy blankets
Restorative sleep
Nature sounds:

crackling 🔥fire,

bird song,

trickling water,

rain drops on roofs,

ocean surf,


lapping water,

rustling leaves


Discouraged 😞

Marriage stuff. Kid stuff. Finance stuff.


“Time for one of my little lists”. Elizabeth Peters

  1. 🌻 sunflowers.  They are so friendly.
  2. Babies fresh from their bath, footie pjs on, tired and ready for bottle and story.
  3. Elephants. I love their four baggy-trousered legs.
  4. My calm patient collie’s liquid brown gaze.  #oldsoul
  5. Clean sheets. Clean nightie.  Clean self.  New book. Time for bed.
  6. Lavender bath salts
  7. Quiche with cauliflower
  8. Out of the Silent Planet by CS Lewis
  9. My adult disabled child’s Disabled People group online.  It has been keeping her happy and cared for during this pandemic
  10. Abuelita brand hot chocolate.  With almond milk. Yum.
  11. Coffee dates with my daughter and grandson 🌷

Watch “Encouragement for Hard Holidays, with Robyn Bush and Kim Michell | Comment start Grounded 11/16/20” on YouTube




You guys

This was so helpful. So blessed. Medicine for my hurting heart.

This is going to be the first holiday season since my oldest son chose another last name and dropped off the earth.

I’m dreading it. Frankly.

So I’m not the only one. I can do this. I’ve got Jesus, and He will never leave me or forsake me.

Pray for me, and I’ll pray for you darlings.

Celebrate anyways

Put it in my pipe and 🚬 it

on living in harmony:
The rule of modesty or propriety

 “When, as often happens, they break it [the rule of modesty] defiantly, in order to shock or embarrass others, 

they are not necessarily being unchaste; 

but they are being uncharitable:

“for It is uncharitable to take pleasure in making other people uncomfortable. 

 ” And I therefore regard the great relaxation and simplifying of the rules of propriety which has taken place in my own life time, 

as a good thing.

“At its present stage,  however, it does lead to

 “an inconvenience:

“that people of different ages and different types do not all acknowledge the same standard, and we hardly know where we are.

While this confusion lasts, 

I think that old (my mom

or old-fashioned (me) people 

“Should be very careful not to assume that 

young or emancipated people (my kids

are corrupt whenever they are, by the old standards, improper;

” and, by the same token 

young people ought not to call their elders prudes or Puritans whenever they do not easily adopt the new standard.I

“A real desire to believe all the good you can of others and to make others as comfortable as you can
…Will solve most of the problems.”
C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity “Christian Behavior” chapter 15