Hard concept to talk about
because of all the TURKEYGIBLETS
that have been said/done
In the history of the world,
about men and women.
Don’t you think?
Let’s try to talk a little sense*
- The Bible does talk about obeying/respecting authority a lot. So its good and right within its place.
- Many folks have a LOT of pain around this issue...selah……………………………………………….and me too so mindfulness is called for.
- Submission of wives to husbands, husbands to wives (look at the wording) kids to parents and employees to bosses isn’t a salvation issue. Its about Christian Behavior. No one is going to hell or heaven over this.
- It’s worth talking about all the same.
- And im focusing in on the part that applies to me. Thats my journey.
- Not every wife/husband team can contain a phlegmatic/ sanguine woman and a melancholy/choleric man. Its just the opposite for me. The rest of us have to figure out how this looks on us as reasoning folks.
- God would not tell us to do something bad or impossible or even stupid.
- As a strong, expressive, determined, passionate (read “directing”) woman, Ive STILL got to wrestle out how I do this. Its part of my journey with Christ
Where does that leave us, girls?
I may have an idea.
Us strong women like happy easy-going men.
Opposites attract, right?
he should have
in my heart.
Even if he doesn’t want it at first. Or have an opinion. (We came across that road block a lot the first fifteen years or so.)
My man doesn’t like conflict. He is peaceful and easy going. All right.
So I give him preference in every way that i can. Then the few times its really important to me…its easier for him to listen.
I ask him for his opinion
Wait for it
And we do it that way
(Resisting the urge to make critical faces)
He doesn’t have a strong preference a lot of the time.
(That’s why I married him)
I show him deference out of reverence for Christ.
When its not a matter of obedience to God (which trumps all else) we do it my man’s way a lot, especiallythe first several months or years.
I teach our kids to respect him.
I talk to myself and others
about what a
guy he is.
I’m careful to keep on top of resentment thoughts.
I call things that aren’t as though they are.
I grab my strong, opinionated, articulate self by the back of the neck…
when my hubby and i don’t agree (after ive prayed)
…and do things his way.
(Even though I might want it a different way.)
That’s how I work out I Peter 3 in my life.
Notes to self
*Try only one or two a day. at first
*God helping me!
…Lets do that hon.
…whatever you think babe
…I wont worry about it, then
(Then I may or may not
PRAY my GUTS OUT
…I think you’re great. Just right. I love our life
Then resist the urge to complain (except to God and\or my counselor)
especially in front of others or the kids.